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Digital dating

The research shows the power of both social and religious norms in affecting these users’ behaviors and decisions when using matrimonial Web sites.

Not only is this just plain wrong, it’s also a heterocentric attitude.If you add a friend of a friend on Facebook, learn about them through their profile and posts, and eventually meet in person, just about everyone will agree this is normal and appropriate.But what if you’re trying to meet people out of your friend group? What if, even though you’d never admit it to most of your friends or any of your family, you’re looking for sex?The teens were asked to report the frequency of experiencing digital dating behaviors such as pressure to sext, sending threatening messages, looking at private information to check up on them without consent and monitoring whereabouts and activities.The researchers also examined the impact of gender on high school students' digital dating abuse experience, including the use of cell phones or the Internet to harass, pressure, control or threaten dating partners.Welcome to the world of online and mobile matchmaking. Today, almost everyone uses some form of social networking, and whether we like to talk about it or not online dating is normal.

Even if you meet a cute person you like face-to-face before connecting online, you still end up flirting with them on the Internet and mobile apps.

This may be done by sending excessive texts or messages, social media stalking, demanding to know account passwords, or dictating who a partner is able to communicate with on social media.

Some abusers may pressure their partner to engage in sexting activity and use the pictures as blackmail to force their partner to do something they would not normally do, something they do not want to do, or as a way to keep their partner from breaking up with them.

Some of the most common red flags of an unhealthy or abusive relationship are a partner checking your phone or email without your permission, showing extreme jealously or insecurity, isolating you from family or friends, and telling you what to do.

If you or someone you know is experiencing digital abuse or other forms of dating violence, help is available.

For the study, which is published in the August edition of the Journal of Adolescence, researchers collected surveys from 703 Midwest high school students who reported digital dating abuse from December 2013 to March 2014.