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Standards too high dating

That said, it actually is possible to have expectations that are way too high.

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Or maybe you’re at the other end of the spectrum, setting your sights too low. Expecting too Much It’s definitely good to maintain high standards.Cuteness, some feel, is welcome diversion from the grueling search for love. Recently a friend ended an intensely committed forever relationship -- his fourth this year.Lists I oppose are those dead-serious inventories that regulate whose on-line profile will live and whose will die. Right now, all over America, love-seekers are huddled over their Starbucks lattes, wondering how to extricate themselves from time-wasting chats with new acquaintances who don't pass the test. When I expressed my sympathies he actually responded, "I should have known not to get involved with her when I saw how far I'd strayed from my list." The Washington Post Sunday Magazine runs a popular weekly feature called Date Lab.Hollywood ruined real life relationships didn’t it?We expect to have relationships like Chuck and Blair or Allie and Noah.But how willing you are to modify or even disregard that list?

I'm not talking about the lists on which phrases such as "always puts down the toilet seat" or "admires my off-key singing" appear. How will anyone who is ruled by a list ever find a satisfactory partner?

We don’t date certain guys because we’re afraid they aren’t our type, but how do you know what your type is before you’ve even been on a real date?

Somewhere around middle school it was “cool” to make a list of traits that your future boyfriend or even husband was going to have.

We will find our soulmate and have a happily ever after.

But that’s not how real life works because we don’t exist in an episode of Gossip Girl or a Nicholas Sparks novel (as much as we would love that).

The episode made me think: what is the difference between being way too picky and simply having high standards?