Youth pastor dating youth
In my five years working with middle school students I’ve met multiple 80 year olds who are incredible youth leaders—and it’s not for their spunky personalities and crazy dance skills. You should be able to trace everything back to Jesus.
It took a couple of very intense days of social media activity by those infuriated by the platform given to a semi-repentant sexual predator before the editors acknowledged that a few edits could not redeem this terrible piece.Those little bullet-points on the list above have taken an inordinate amount of our time and emotional and spiritual energy through the years. In the midst of dealing with the exposure (usually in the form of denial, denial, denial, victim-blaming, and more denial on behalf of the two-faced youth pastor), the focus stays on the parties directly involved.Either we have a stunning knack for choosing especially messed-up churches or this is happening in too many congregations. Additional effort goes toward messaging about the situation for the congregation and, in some cases, meeting with with legal authorities.After a while, I was so deep into sin that I was scared to tell anyone because my pastor started trusting me, and I would feel like I failed him.After about a 10-month break from sex, we did it again. I'm hurting my walk with God because I lie to myself and to her, and now I'm very scared that I made her enjoy it, and I am to blame.I feel like killing myself because I know I cause her to sin.
She is beautiful, she sings and she loves God, and I am hindering her.
They removed it from the site late Friday afternoon.
Mary De Muth wrote a helpful summary of the situation here if you’d like to read more about it.
The story led me to do a little reflection about the collateral damage caused by a youth leader’s sexual sin.
I’m thinking here about those who were not directly affected by the actions of a predatory leader: the rank-and-file youth group kids.
Yet a feeling in my flesh rises up and makes me want more. That is a immovable, constant truth, but I willingly want to sin, and I make provisions with the flesh.